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Long Distance Caregiving
Friday, November 24, 2006
My 84-year-old parents are in relatively good health and live nine hours away. In this last year I am hearing more about how much the miss me. If moving closer to them is an option, would it be appropriate?
of the best things a caregiver can do is listen to what they're telling
you. Since they're telling you they would like to see you more, they
miss you, you might want to talk with them about what changes have been
going on in their lives.
instance, your mother may tell you she misses you and what she'd like
for you to know is that the care of your father is becoming more
complicated, so one of the first things that you would want to do is to
go below the surface of their missing-you statements.
your parents' ages, it's not uncommon for care needs to become more
pronounced. If feasible, you may want to consider how you can be a more
active caregiver to them as they age.
you have siblings or other relatives that live near your parents? You
might want to find out if they can help meet your parents' care needs
in some way.
There are things you can do long-distance to support your parents, including:
- Helping them make financial plans
- Thinking through issues of long-term care
- Discussing housing arrangement as they get older
These are all issues you could help them address long distance, as well as when you visit them.