If you can, ask for help from a senior care consultant, as in Senior Care Select.  They can connect you to the appropriate people to ensure both your parents are looked after properly.

Your Mom will need you to be with her, and perhaps she may need a caregiver with her the first day post-operative.

Your Dad will need to have someone to stay with him.  Often what happens in a relationship is that your Mom fills in the blanks for your Dad, she covers for him and is his right hand, and often the children have no idea that there may be a problem.   

He may or may not get confused if you take him to your home.  The senior care consultant can meet with you and your Dad and develop an appropriate plan of care; for example it could be meal preparation, cleaning-up, and laundry, feeding and walking the dog, taking your Dad to see your Mom. 

Care is supplied by an accredited agency with staff that is bonded and insured.

Once the crisis is over the senior care consultant can help to plan the next steps. 

The imporant thing here is to ensure that your Mom or Dad will be well taken care of, even if you or your loved ones are not able to be there all the time.  You are not and don't have to be alone in the process of making such a huge life decision. 

A senior care consultant has the knowledge and tools to help you and your loved ones make an informed decision about what to do with Mom or Dad or both when situations like yours arrive.  They are there to help and we encourage you to use them if you feel lost or frustrated or even just want some advice on what care your Mom or Dad may need.